Ways to cope with the recession with your children
The global recession has impacted on everyone in our society. We have all been affected either directly or indirectly. Children can experience a lot of anxiety and fear when they hear these kinds of headlines in the news. For families where the primary wage earner is unemployed it is particularly difficult. So how much do we share with our children? Obviously this will depend on where they are at developmentally. The most important thing is our children to feel safe. Here are some basic tips on how parents can lighten the load for their children (Reference: The Catholic Weekly, 24 May 2009, Vol.68, No.4469).
Reassure. The most important things parents can do is reassure their children that everything will be OK and that it’s their role as parents to look after these issues. Children, even teenagers, look to parents to know that they will be provided for and to make sure their parents have things under control. However, it is not always easy to sound confident when you are worried about the future.
Open communication. It is OK to let your child know you’re frustrated about the situation; however, it is important to make sure you make it clear you’re dealing with it. Remember – you’re the adult. As a parent, your job is to communicate that you’re working on finding solutions. In situations like this, children of all ages need to know that even if things are difficult now, you will do your best to work things out in the long run.
Don’t lean on children for support. Sometimes this can be tempting, especially for older children and for single parents. Find support elsewhere – friends, family, or professionals (like Parent Line counsellors, etc).
Show them you are in control of the situation. Make sure your children understand that you are doing everything to make things better. Be prepared to make the hard decisions without including the children.
Help them see the benefits. Help your children see it’s not at all bad. You may be home more, for instance, or able to spend more time with them. Or you may have the opportunity to find some thing you really love to do. You can tell children you will try to minimise what they have to give up but also remind them that you can have fun doing less expensive things.
Ask questions. Listen to your children and watch their behaviour. Let your child know they can approach you with concerns or questions any time. Keep them informed as the situation changes.
Let them help. Many children see themselves as part of the family “team”. If they want to contribute, you can ask them for ideas on what can be cut back. For example, ask them for ideas on cheaper family holidays, activities and meals etc.
Put it in context. Remind your child that lots of people are going through the same thing. They’ll feel better knowing that they and their parents are not alone.
If you would like to discuss this issue or any other parenting issues or concerns, Parent Line counsellors are available 24 hours a day, seven days a week to provide a free, professional, confidential service to all parents and carers of children across New South Wales. Phone 1300 1300 52. Reference: The Catholic Weekly, 24 May 2009, Vol.68, No.4469.